
Mom or Dad? (2017)
Directed by Riccardo Milani
No — Mom or Dad? is not woke, scoring 5 out of 100 on our wokeness meter.
Riccardo Milani's 2017 comedy arrives with a premise that any screenwriter would envy and most would squander: a divorced couple, Valeria and Nicola, both desperate to unload their three children onto the other.
Consciousness Markers
The premise of a mother who actively does not want her children mildly subverts maternal expectations, but it is played purely for farce rather than as a feminist statement.
The couple's careerist ambitions are mined for comedy, but there is no systemic critique of wealth or capitalism.
The cast is a standard ensemble of Italian comedic actors with no evident effort toward diverse or inclusive representation.
No LGBTQ+ characters, themes, or subtext appear in this custody-battle comedy.
No engagement with race, racism, or racial identity whatsoever.
No environmental or climate themes present.
No body-positive themes or messaging.
No neurodivergent characters or themes.
A contemporary domestic comedy with no historical revisionism.
The film delivers its gags without any preachy moralizing or social messaging.
Why it received this score
Riccardo Milani's 2017 comedy arrives with a premise that any screenwriter would envy and most would squander: a divorced couple, Valeria and Nicola, both desperate to unload their three children onto the other. The Italian film is a remake of the French Daddy or Mommy, which explains the brisk, well-oiled machinery of the thing. Paola Cortellesi and Antonio Albanese are gifted farceurs, and they spend ninety minutes sabotaging each other's careers and dinner parties with the grim efficiency of people who have read the manual.
The cultural inventory here is thin, and the film seems content to leave it that way. Valeria's refusal of the maternal instinct is a mild inversion of expectation, though it exists to fuel slapstick, not argument. The couple's naked careerism gets mined for laughs, and the joke lands on their vanity, never on the system that rewards it. Beyond that, the cupboard is bare. No race, no queerness, no climate, no bodies to be positive about, no neurodivergent subplot, no history to revise. The film has no interest in instructing anyone. It wants to make you laugh at a man hiding in a hotel bathroom from his own son.
A contemporary Italian domestic comedy from 2017, adapted from a French hit, is not the likeliest vessel for the social currents of the decade, and this one does not pretend otherwise. It is a machine for gags, competently assembled, and it never once stops to tell us how to feel about the world. There is something almost restful in that. Almost.
Analysis generated by our Consciousness Algorithm
Synopsis
A divorced couple fights for the custody of their three children: neither of them wants it. Mom wants to leave them to dad, and vice versa.
Questions about Mom or Dad?
Is Mom or Dad? woke?
No — Mom or Dad? is not woke, scoring 5 out of 100 on our wokeness meter. That earns it a verdict of Ultra Based.
Does Mom or Dad? have any woke elements?
Very few. None of the 10 markers reaches 30, the level where a marker counts as present; the highest is Feminist Agenda at 10.
How does Mom or Dad? compare to other 2017 movies?
It ranks #241 of the 309 films from 2017 we've scored; their average is 19. The wokest is I Am Not Your Negro (92).
How is the Woke Score calculated?
An AI-assisted process researches the film and its reception, scores it 0–100 on ten markers, then combines those into one 0–100 Woke Score. It measures a specific set of 2020s cultural themes, not film quality.